Tips in Relationship

Something to think about:  In marriage anger is a wasted emotion. Never go to bed angry, always solve the issue or forget about it and move on.  Always practice advance forgiveness, even when he doesn’t apologize. So that your prayers for him will not be hindered.  Always remember you don’t quench fire with fire. Always remember a soft answer turns away wrath. Money is a major necessity in marriage. Correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t believe that any marriage can be truly happy without the basic necessities of life. As much as I would like to tell you that love is all you need to sustain a marriage; that would be a lie. Love doesn’t pay school fees, the house rent or medical bills. I also need to stress that one of the areas the enemy attacks men the most is in their finances. No matter how anointed a man is, if he is struggling financially, he will be frustrated and in turn frustrate you. So you need to pray that there will be a free flow of finances in his life; that he will make, multiply and manage money well. The only way to ensure this is that he constantly sees God as his source. Something to think about  Money is very important in marriage but it must never be the foundation of your marriage.  Money is a tool. It is meant to be used not worshipped.  Never fight over money; Money lost can always be made but hurtful words are hard to make right.  Never let money destroy the bond of trust you have for each other if it is becoming a problem find creative ways to work around it.  Let faith be the determining factor not money when making critical decisions in your marriage. Above all things Haven’t you ever wondered why being in health is paramount on God’s list of desires for us? Well, I have and I have come to the conclusion that no matter how rich, how talented or happily married you are all it takes to really mess it all up is to have failing health. Paying medical bills, even if it is a curable disease, can take its toll on anyone. Also having a spouse who is always sick can squeeze the life out of any marriage. No one wants to be neck-high in hospital bills or always caring for a sick spouse. Thankfully, we have a healer and even better, a God who can actually keep us from being sick. Don’t accept any form of sickness in your husband’s life, even headaches. It’s not a part of the covenant. Expect him to be a whole man – spirit, soul and body Something to think about  The only way to achieve all you are called to does in a healthy body. A sick body is limiting.  Be healthy isn’t only limited to eating clean, exercising and drinking lots of water it is also having a healthy mind.  Keep the space in your husband’s life peaceful. Peace brings health. Faith Not Fear I know that scripture is talking about a man who is faithful, steadfast and loyal but that scripture often speaks to me in a different way. I usually interpret it as a FAITH FULL man. In other words, a man who is full of faith, a man who will respond to whatever life throws at him with faith. No woman wants a coward for a husband; you need someone who you know will stand boldly and declare deliverance where necessary, one who will make faith moves when it’s time to change gears in your lives. Funny enough, contrary to what we think, a lot of men are prone to fear on a daily basis. They have moments where their hearts can fail and they begin to battle with uncertainty. The things that God will ask your husband to do and the dreams that God will give him that will change your lives will always be bigger than his mind can contain. They would usually require faith and a lot of courage. So pray that his heart would be strengthened and faith would rise in his heart till you can say that he is a faith FULL man; a man FULL of faith. The journey of life is always better with someone beside you; someone who will be a father to your children and a spiritual, emotional and sometimes financial cover to you. When you are hit with the cold stormy moments of life knowing that you are not alone matters. As I sat there, and people came and went, I thought to myself “She will go into that empty room no live-in lover, no friend, no brother or partner. She’s all alone.” The longer I have my husband here on earth with me the better, Recently I was talking to a well-respected medical doctor and she was lamenting on how, in America, there is presently inadequate care for the elderly and no proper healthcare plan for them. They are pretty much left to die – with a lot of age-induced illnesses. However, the bible makes it clear that long life is not the only thing covered in the covenant. We are expected to age well too. Moses was 120 years yet his eyesight did not get dim. I ve heard a lot of people say that your eyesight gets worse with age. Well, not in the covenant. The bible says that Moses’ body was not enveloped in aches and pains but he was still vigorous and strong. Pray that even as your husband gets older, he will still be like Caleb conquering mountains and doing great things irrespective of his age.